This is one of the most common questions I’m asked—and one of the most frustrating things my patients hear on their fertility journey:
“Maybe you just need to relax.”
Let’s be clear.
Stress does not cause infertility.
But infertility absolutely causes stress.
And that’s a really important distinction.
What the Science Actually Says
Yes, chronic, unrelenting stress can have real effects on the body. It can disrupt sleep, shift hormone levels, impact appetite, and in some cases, even interfere with ovulation.
But it’s rarely the root cause of fertility problems.
We see people fall pregnant during incredibly stressful times—and others who are calm, supported, and still need help to conceive. Stress isn’t a diagnostic tool, and it’s certainly not a treatment plan.
Here’s what we do know:
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Stress is a normal response to something painful or uncertain.
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Feeling stressed doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.
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You can care for your emotional wellbeing and still need medical support.
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Mind-body approaches—like counselling, mindfulness, gentle movement, or support groups—can help you cope, and that really matters.
What I Want You to Know 💛
You didn’t cause this by being anxious.
You don’t need to “stay positive” for things to work.
You deserve support that’s rooted in both science and compassion.
So no, stress didn’t break your body. And being perfectly calm won’t be a magic fix. But looking after your emotional wellbeing is still a powerful part of the journey—and one you don’t have to walk alone.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, let’s talk.
Support matters—and we’re here for you.
Warmly,
Dr Kokum Jayasinghe
Fertility Specialist, Melbourne